Eyes and Mind Wide Open

Children see the world in a different light. Their eyes and mind are more open than adults.

Yet, even though I am aware of this, my 5 year old son, Bency never ceases to amaze me with his observations.

It all started when he was a toddler and able to communicate. He would point out simple things like the canisters on the kitchen cupboard were slightly askew. He has always been enamored with color and by the time he was 2 years old he knew the difference between purple and indigo. His speed at doing jigsaw puzzles has always astounded me. He barely glances at a piece and immediately knows where it goes. As he has grown older the number and depth of his observations has grown.

Bency loves doing science experiments

Bency loves doing science experiments

Bency does not have a huge interest in reading books and yet night after night I sit down with him and we work on his reading skills. He will be reading out loud and then come to an abrupt stop. I will be sitting there thinking he is stumped on a word and waiting for him to figure it out. Instead, out of his mouth comes, “Mom, did you ever notice how the little “i” looks like a lit candle? Look at the page Mom; it looks like hundreds of candles shining in the story.” He often studies the pictures and sometimes disagrees with the illustrators. He feels that the right smile wasn’t captured, “Mom, don’t you think Betsy’s smile should be bigger since she just received an ice cream cone?”

It was no surprise to me when the neighbor lady came over this Fall after Bency had just been to her house for a visit and said, “I painted my living room 2 weeks ago. It was Off-White before and I painted it Eggshell White. Bency marched in, put his hands on his hips, looked around and said “I like what you’ve done with the place. The new color looks great.” I nodded my head and said, “Yes, that’s how Bency is.”

This past Valentine’s Day, my Mom brought Bency a card she made herself. She hid words all over the card for him to find. As I was reading off the hidden words to him, he said, “I see the Letter “I.” I looked around the card and didn’t see it. He pointed it out to me. I had to hold the card 2 inches from my face and look at it for a long time until I finally saw it. My Mom had to bring it over to the lamp and hold it under the bright light until she finally found it. It was merely how the brush stroke of the marker was colored on the paper. She did not intentionally make the letter “I.”

Can you see the I?

Can you see the I?

It comes as no shock that Bency received the comment “Great little observer!” on his report card or 4 different comments about “Too much talking.” This is how Bency is made up. There is so much in this world that he sees and he wants to share it with everyone!

Report Card

How wonderful it would be to be a kid again and really see the world with your eyes and mind wide open.

46 responses

  1. If I haven’t mentioned it before – I love your kids! Great post written by an incredible mom who embraces who her children are rather than expects them to become what she’d prefer. Well Done!!

  2. That’s a great gift Bency has — being able to notice things that everyone else passes over. Reminds me of Sherlock Holmes — or maybe I’m just watching too many episodes of “Sherlock” and “Elementary.” 🙂

    I was cracking up at his report card as well — all those numbers and standards. Our elementary school uses checks (for Satisfactory), pluses (for Exceeds Expectations), and triangles (for Needs Improvement), but now that I’ve finally cracked their code, I think that all might be changing. Makes me long for the old A, B. C system a little. The best part of the whole thing is the teacher comments anyway — and Bency looks like he’s really excelling there! Congrats, Bency!

    • Someone else just mentioned that I have to check out Elementary! I haven’t seen Sherlock either. My tv viewing has been so limited lately! And yes, the new report cards sure pack in a lot of information that it makes my mind whirl. As long as no ones report says that they are getting kicked out, I’m pretty happy!

  3. I notice this in my kids too. It’s a shame but I think we lose that as a adults when we get so mired in responsibility, stress and being overwhelmed but hopefully with your encouragement your son will hang onto his keen observation skills!

  4. How wonderful to have a young person in your life that points out “it looks like hundreds of candles shining in the story.” If only we all saw the shining candles. 🙂 Thank you for sharing the joys in your life.

    • haha!! Indigo has a bit more blue to it. Bency sounds a bit like Eyeore when he talks and whenever I would refer to something as purple he would say, “I believe it’s actually Indigo.” in his little Eyeore voice. As for the sensitive characteristic… that is exactly how his teacher referred to him at his parent/teacher conference. I was afraid she meant he was throwing fits in class but she clarified and said he just feels things more deeply. ( Apparently he just keeps the fit throwing at home for my enjoyment only!)

  5. I think it’s amazing that Bency found the hidden “l” in your mother’s card. I would’ve never noticed it. Kids really do see the world through a different lens. I have no doubt that you will continue to foster that creativity in him, Melissa!

    • I remember some things from my childhood but considering it was so long ago everything is so fuzzy. It would be great to have that point of view and get into a child’s head and really see the world how they see it!

  6. Kids really do see so much more than us, don’t they? We’re so busy marching along to wherever it is we think we need to be that we miss out on the details along the way. A walk to the park is a perfect example. I’m so set on getting to the park that it drives me crazy how long it takes. Meanwhile, they’re discovering pinecones, lucky pennies and interesting cracks in the sidewalk. Of course, they are a lot closer to the ground than I am too 🙂

  7. Wow! Very impressive! Sounds like your son is extremely gifted; some of those things that you mentioned are amazing! Kids never cease to amaze me…I’m going to be sharing a story about my nephew in an upcoming post. It touches on the unknowing humor that kids possess. Great post!

  8. My son is the same way with reading. It still frustrates me. The last two days, I have watched him build a house from cardboard, furniture included and then string with for lights with pieces of Christmas lights and batteries, so he can turn rooms on and off. I’m in shock. I love it when they make up learn new things about the world!

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