The other day I was asked if I had a “child” or a “grandchild” attending school. This was asked to my face by a man in his 50’s.
I am a 37 year old mom with three small children so now I am extremely self-conscious that I perhaps really do look like a grandma. I understand that logistically you can actually be a grandma at the age of 37 if you had your children at a young age and then your children also had their children at a young age. But I’m assuming that even if you truly are a grandma at the age of 37 you are probably hoping people wouldn’t guess it by just looking at you.
So I am creating a list of items to help people distinguish between a grandma and a mom so more people do not make the same mistake that the man I encountered the other day did.
She might be a Grandma if:
- She has used, crumpled tissues stuck in both arm sleeves and her bra and is willing to whip one out and use it on anyone with a runny nose she comes across.
- Her pockets are full with warm butterscotch candies that she doles out to anyone with a sad look on their face
- She utters, “Just give that baby another cookie. It doesn’t matter if he has already had 5.”
- She is wearing White Shoulders perfume
- If she doesn’t wear perfume she will smell like a mix of Ben-Gay and fresh baked cookies.
- She is carrying a bottle of Pepto Bismol in her purse and takes it out every so often and has a swig.
- She is a walking pharmacy. If you have any sort of ailment she can probably dig through her purse and produce something that will cure it. Never mind the expiration date.
- She shakes her head at the prices of things and mutters “I remember when milk was only a nickel a gallon.
- She talks about Pat and Vanna from Wheel of Fortune like they are her best friends.
- When she tells you your bloomers are showing you don’t feel embarrassed at all…you feel looked after and loved.
So these are a few things that will indicate that you are dealing with a grandma. Admittedly, I actually do some of these things. So truly the best rule to follow when you don’t know whether to address someone as a mom or grandma is just to wait until a child approaches them. If the kid starts shouting, “Grandma, Grandma…Mom said I can’t have any candy” and you then witness the lady slip 3 warm butterscotch candies into the child’s hand….then you have my permission to address her as Grandma too. Otherwise, you might just give a very tired mom a complex!